What does it mean to be a real woman?

Interesting article "Don't Judge a Woman by their cover" in the SMH today.

"The message, ingrained in society, is: if you don't adopt the trappings associated with conventional femininity, you're not a ''real'' woman"

Do we as a society and a culture judge a real woman only by external appearances? Do we stretch this to say 'real women' also have to be sexy and sex objects - thereby spawning what has come to known as 'Raunch Culture'.

Where does that leave young women who don't want to be dressed in the current fashion with sky high heels? or necessarily want to be the sexiest chick in town?